Other people should be willing to do more to do more for my needs.
This is a statement which came up during my weekly DBT homework. Our task involved examining a collection of myths relating to interpersonal effectiveness, identifying which ones we subscribe to and developing counter arguments to them to break down these roadblocks. Continue reading Other People Should…
It’s amazing that DBT can break down something that I’ve struggled with tremendously in such a simple manner. In my last group session we began our introduction to interpersonal effectiveness and examined the core concepts here: Be skillful in getting what you want and need from others Build relationships and end destructive ones Walk the … Continue reading Interpersonal Effectiveness
I am two weeks into my DBT group sessions and I am already noticing an impact it’s having on my life. I take a second to ask myself “is this wise mind?” before I react… well, most of the time anyway. It doesn’t mean I always listen to the answer, but I’m reigning myself in from my worst impulses. Continue reading 2 Weeks In
This is the question my new therapist posed to me during our first meeting. Through my own studies I felt like I had a basic knowledge of Dialectical Behaviour Therapy but I’ve barely scratched the surface. I mean, obviously; the course I’ve signed up to requires 3.5 hours face-to-face each week for six months, then there’s homework and phone counselling. The several hours I’ve spent with a textbook from Book Depository doesn’t really cut it. Continue reading So, What Do You Know About DBT?
I gave into pressure. Maybe it’s something I do too much, maybe it’s something I should do more, I don’t know. What I do know is that writing was helping. It helped me tremendously but I know it helped other people. Friends who I hadn’t spoken to in years contacted me to tell me that … Continue reading Not Going Anywhere
I’ve briefly mentioned weaponized apologies in the past and I’ve been mulling over this ever since. I think my perception of apologies and how some people react to them has really impacted my ability to take ownership for my actions. I remember vividly being in my early teens and crying while saying sorry. While I … Continue reading Apologies & Blame
I mean, I talk about how I often put my foot in my mouth and that I’m generally a fuck up who can’t keep my shit together. But I’m wondering if people just don’t get it. Continue reading Have I Not Made It Clear?